Posted by twinleaf on June 14, 2009, at 11:04:47
In reply to I fired my t, posted by alexandra_k on June 13, 2009, at 20:11:19
The way you describe him, he sounds well-intentioned, but not sufficiently focussed on his patients-not just you I'm sure-to make sure that he can give each one as near as possible what he/she needs.He may not even have thought about that very much. What happened does hurt an awful lot, but it is not about you at all; it has to do entirely with his own limitations as a therapist.
It sounds as though he has some real limitations- you wouldn't want to have to keep bumping up against those years into the future, especially if you go to med school and have a variable schedule of your own. There really ARE committed therapists out there who will keep you in mind and really care about what is best for you. For example, the one i have will try very hard to give me a make-up appointment the week before or after he goes to a conference. One time, he scheduled me in at 8 in the evening! The "keeping in mind" is at the top of the list of what he wants to do for his patients, and it has had a very strong and positive effect on me..
Right now, you have a chance to interview a number of therapists. You know much more about what you need now than you did a few years ago, and, because you have gotten so much better, you are a desirable and promising client. I hope you will interview lots of them and choose very carefully!