Posted by obsidian on November 6, 2008, at 22:15:06
In reply to I should add, posted by TherapyGirl on November 6, 2008, at 20:46:50
well yeah, I guess you could consider it an object permanence issue, but it is really and concretely about the fact that she won't be "there" in the very real sense of the word.
I mean I get it. My T "disappears" sometimes on me, like if I can't hear him or see him he is "gone". She can still be with you emotionally of course, but it can be a very different thing when you won't actually "see" her.
how I compare it to an infant:
an infant sees a block, his eyes follow it
you pass that block behind another object, and out of sight, that block ceases to exist for that child. He doesn't even know how to begin to follow it. It's just gone.I think there is a very real difference between understanding the concept emotionally verses the concept intellectually, and its also a big difference when you use people instead of objects
for instance: mom leaves the room...how does the child react? think about those videos about attachment style...I've got to get a copy of those. The children can react very differently
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