Posted by rskontos on November 7, 2008, at 9:18:02
In reply to I should add, posted by TherapyGirl on November 6, 2008, at 20:46:50
TherapyGirl,
I know that I can't add a great deal of experience to this discussion, and Daisym explained the concept of object permanence very well and how it interfaces in your therapy relationship. While MD add really personal experiences as well showed how she managed her early end to therapy.
All I have to add for you to think about and it may be rubbish, but here goes is this:
I think it is not only the young TherapyGirl hurting and wondering how this person of such trust, caring and safety can be departing but I feel that you, adult TherapyGirl, is also there wondering how can this be. So you have a two-fold situation where young TG has the hurts of a three-year old, object permanence, and adult TG has the hurts of a adult that learned to trust in a relationship that has offered her the peace, safety, trust and caring that she needed to help her in addition to being there to try to heal the hurting three-year old TG. Does this make sense?
I just got a sense that the hurt and distress is so much more. For me, the goal of therapy is having, finally, a relationship with someone I can trust to speak of things I have never spoken about. You get so far into that relationship and feel things for the first time you have never felt only to have it end really before you have truly and finally dealt with all that is inside of you both of adult issues and those that are still unresolved children inside, is such a blow. I can see why you are struggling so much.
I feel for you and hope my words help you, if not please discard them. I only want to offer my support during this very difficult time. I truly understand difficult, even if my own are of a different nature. Hard times are hard times.
Take care and know I, as well as so many others here, wish you peace.
rsk
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