Posted by Happyflower on April 21, 2008, at 19:10:42
In reply to I think I am pretending in T.....(triggerspossible, posted by rskontos on April 21, 2008, at 18:20:14
Hi Rk,
No, I don't think you are wasting time, to me it makes sense on what is happening. You don't feel bonded to him at the moment and of course how could you possibly work with him on such sensitive issues? You want to retreat and I think that is in fact very normal to do that for our own safety especially for the life you have gone through. Safety is huge for us. I do think it is important to talk to him about this.
I do admit I don't agree with him about "ignoring" the sa issues. I am one who feels you need to work this out to heal. Maybe that is what scared you, it is like he is almost saying he isn't willing to go to the limit with you. I think I would retreat too if I felt that way.
It is a confusing situation, but I believe honesty is the best way to go about things. ((((Rk)))
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