Posted by seldomseen on April 2, 2008, at 5:23:30
In reply to I'm not bored anymore, posted by Dinah on April 1, 2008, at 20:45:31
"And it seems to me that I'm relating to him more as a person, and less as an object put there for my benefit."
I think you expressed this transition very well.
I've always found it interesting (in a good way!) that you refer to your therapist as therapist/mommy. My therapist has very much been my father object for as long as I can remember.
I wonder if what we are going through mimics the developmental stages that children go through in relation to their parents.
The dependence, the rebellion, the independence, the resolution and finally the growth into a mature relationship (well, I've read that's the way it's supposed to go, please disregard that I dreamed I shot my mother last night).
My therapy has been all about the so-called "corrective emotional experience". While, of course, we are not children in therapy, I do wonder if there is a corrective developmental experience there as well. Because we are adults (or just very very well therapized), we can recognize the shift in the dynamic.
Now we have to figure out how to negotiate the new relationship.
My therapist has also said that I have been willing to do the work required to make therapy successful. Good lord, it has been a tremendous amount of work.
So I guess, here we go again - back on the mountain, scaling that learning curve again.
However, I think it will be very nice to welcome this whole new person into my life.
OMG! what if I don't like him!