Posted by DAisym on September 4, 2007, at 0:54:12
In reply to Weird -- transference and approval and abandonment, posted by Racer on September 3, 2007, at 14:50:34
I've described "need" as something out of the "Feed Me!" book - I keep stomping around like that monster "I'm hungry!" but nothing satisfies me. I'm guessing your therapist met your need with an open mind and heart and accepted and embraced it. And that is terrifying. And feels so good - of course you want more.
And since you were never allowed to be needy, you now wait for your therapist to come to her senses and take back her acceptance and insist you stand on your own two feet. So part of you wants to beat her to the punch. Of course it is scary.
Of course - this could all just be my stuff. I find needing my therapist awful and wonderful. I'm mad as hell at him this weekend for "leaving" me for 4 days. I just wish he knew I was.
It gets easier - and Falls is right. Talk about it.
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