Posted by widget on August 25, 2007, at 1:49:03
In reply to Re: still stuck in 'transference' with therapist, posted by DAisym on August 24, 2007, at 17:09:20
Dear Daisym, Thanks for the response. No, I have not entered into a more "intimate" relationship with him and yes, we continue to talk about my feeling for him. He has told me he must remain "unwavering" as I have been raised on mistrust and if he ever had a crack in his boundaries toward me, I would sense it immediately. Its funny that just what I would love, the human "crack" is what he must avoid so continually since he is aware of how strong my feelilngs are. He keeps assuring me that this painful longing will diminish and change as I grow and that I may just have to take his word on this as it seems so impossible to believe that I would ever want a world without him in it.
I guess that means that I will never end therapy, not willingly and he has said that therapy can only end when we agree to do so. No matter what I do, he remains resolute in his boundaries. I do marvel at his consistancy. And, like Joni's therapist, he has said it is remarkable that I can bring this up again and again and that it will ultimately help to talk about it rather than to ignore it. He has never been dishonest with me so I feel forced to, at least, intellectually accept what he says. But, as to how I FEEL, well, every kind word from him only strengthens the attachment I have. I'm so glad you guys are still out there. I'm feeling lonely and stuck but its getting to be a familiar feeling.
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