Posted by happykat on January 16, 2007, at 15:09:15
In reply to how do i let go, posted by shrinking violet on January 15, 2007, at 18:53:59
hi shrinking violet,
Quite a dilemna. I think it's really important that you vent. That you get whatever it is that you're still holding onto, out of your system. Since the new T is affliated with the old I understand your dilemna in not being able to talk it out with her.
I think what I would do is definitely write out a letter and put it away. Wait a week and write out another letter and put it away. I'd do this at least 3 or 4 times. At the end of the month pull them all out, read through them and if you still feel you need to mail a copy then do so. But with the understanding and expectation that you will probably never get a reply.
I have found that oftentimes just the act of writing out a letter is enough to help me let go of things. If it doesn't and you have written 3-4 letters I can almost guarantee that you'll find that there are important things in the 2,3 and 4th letter that were left out of the first. So in the end if you do send it you'll have a more comprehensive probably less bitter letter. Just a thought. Of course, I've given people letters and ended up regretting it, so this is my failsafe way of keeping myself from doing it again.
If you want to vent and don't want to do it on the boards feel free to babblemail me.
Good Luck with everything.
Regards,
happykat :)
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