Posted by shrinking violet on January 16, 2007, at 8:00:16
In reply to Re: how do i let go, posted by Scentedgarden on January 15, 2007, at 21:40:17
Hi,
Nice to meet you, and thanks for replying.Well, my relationship with my former T was good in some ways, not good in others. I think we were too enmeshed emotionally, and she hardly had any boundaries at all with me. She took my anger and defensiveness personally, she'd take things I said or did personally and get defensive in return....It was very difficult and draining for both of us. It had it's tender good moments, but, that just leaves me wondering whether it was 'real' and whether she really cared as much as she claimed, or was it all some therapeutic trick?
Anyway, it's too complicated to go into here. I don't know what your relationship with your T is like....I'm sure it's nothing like mine was, lol, as i'm sure your T is more in control of things than I feel mine was.
Thanks again for replying, and welcome to babble.
-sv> hi...i dont think we have met before..but im glad you posted as what you did.
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> i donnno if it will help by opening things up...all the emotion , but i dont see how it can do any harm, if you are already still feeling so much for her...can it do any real harm to put your thought and feelings down especially now sh is no longer your therapist.?
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> i donno your history but it sounds like you had a wonderfully intense relationship with her...and now you have just a therapist...
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> i see the differnce..its nice when they dont mean much as the intense stuff can be very overwhelming...
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> if you had a few mins to read some of my recent posts you may see i feel alot for my terpaist and im so glad you have posted....as i can see myself feeling as you do in a while from now...
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> its amazing how the things someone does here can really be timely for another person...
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> im sorry i cant help you at all really...i just wanted to say i think i understand how you feel...
> id love to now how you ended with your precious therapist, and if you loved her ..as i love mine..but i wont ask as im not pushy that way
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> sorry this is rushed its nearly 4 am and i cant sleep but im rushing so i can get into bed and try...
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> hope to speak again soon whenim not rushing...
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> besy wishes
> scentedgarden
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