Posted by shrinking violet on January 16, 2007, at 10:20:20
In reply to Re: how do i let go, posted by joslynn on January 16, 2007, at 10:14:10
Hi,
Thanks for your response.Yes, I've been searching myself for those answers as well. I think that's why I took so long to even think of beginning this letter (it's been almost 2 yrs now since I've terminated with the former T), because I wanted to wait to see if my feelings changed with time, and to be more objective. I don't want to send the letter with any expectation of hearing from her at all. I don't think I do: I think, for me, "getting it all out", so-to-speak, and knowing I've said my peace to her, would give me some closure and allow me to go on. Theoretically. I guess maybe I should write the letter first, see if the actual process brings about any new feelings, and/or see how I feel about the finished product before I decide any further action.
I just hate that I feel I need to do this. I really want to let it go and move on, rather than waste any more of my time and emotion on this.
Thanks for the reply.
-sv
> Hmm, well, a question to ask yourself is, if you sent the letter, would you have expectations of a response? Would you expect an apology, a short note back, or, would you be ok with no response?
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> If part of you deep down inside wants some sort of response to the letter, then I think sending the letter and not getting an answer could reawaken longing and feelings of rejection. But only you really know what your expectations are of her, if anything. You have to examine your heart.
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thread:722646
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