Posted by Daisym on January 16, 2007, at 0:15:29
In reply to how do i let go, posted by shrinking violet on January 15, 2007, at 18:53:59
Maybe you should stop trying so hard to let go but rather sift through your experience for those moments that mean so much to you. Rarely do we encounter someone who calls up so many intense feelings. Your old therapist had something that touched you, and something you needed. Even though your new therapist is "easier" in some ways, the passion and depth of your feelings for the first one can't just be dismissed as "bad" for you. She awoke a deep need, a need that was painful and all consuming. It isn't always comfortable, but knowing you have the capacity to feel so deeply is actually a gift.
I think if you can reframe your experience as a bitter-sweet one, you will be able to put it behind you, in that pile of memories we sort through and learn from. Writing the letter might help. Mailing it almost certainly won't. Because that isn't closure, it is reopening the door.
I feel for you. I hope you can talk it through in therapy.
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