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Re: My experience with loving my therapist. crushedout

Posted by madeline on July 22, 2006, at 12:24:23

In reply to Re: My experience with loving my therapist. madeline, posted by crushedout on July 22, 2006, at 9:39:26

Link to my post:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20060604/msgs/656352.html

I do understand how you feel. I really do. It's hard to imagine finding someone as perfect as your therapist. It's hard to imagine loving someone OTHER than your therapist. I get it, I really really do.

I stayed in that place for a long time and it's a bad place to be, BUT, it's an okay place to be too. In a stange way, it is comfortable and very very safe. The love is wholly real, but the situation is not.

Our therapist's experience of our therapy is very different from ours. I think the love they feel for us is from a shared experience with us, but they have not shared their intimate sides with us the way we have with them.

For me, it was so scary to imagine a truly shared intimate experience. Believe it or not, it was my MOTHER that told me that things were not going to change until I made them change.

It was the scariest, I think most horrifying thing that I have ever done. But I started to open myself to people around me. At first, I almost had the infamous "psychotic break", but I survived and came out of it with love.

The fact that you are gay doesn't change anything, in my opinion. Love is love, fear is fear and hope is hope.

There are no guarentees here, but you owe it to yourself and those that COULD love you to just simply try.

Maddie


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