Posted by llrrrpp on June 25, 2006, at 21:19:58
In reply to Re:info help » gardenergirl, posted by ElaineM on June 25, 2006, at 20:57:48
Elaine,
you can always wait until you get out of the situation with your T and file the report in a few weeks/months. Whenever you feel safe and distant enough. It's your decision.Again, it's not an issue of whether your T is a good man. It's an issue of whether he was doing his job. From your descriptions of his behavior, he has been unprofessional, not just in a little slip, but in a sustained and escalating manner. I don't like thinking about what will happen to your relationship if you continue to see him. You deserve to have therapy with someone who is 100% dedicated and 100% competent to make you well. If your T were doing his job, you wouldn't be in this situation. Regardless of whether he is an intentional predator, or just a flawed human being, he is not a good T for you, and probably is not a good T for his other clients right now either.
If you are very worried about your confidentiality, you can always reregister using another name, now, or at any time in the future. You don't need to say what your old name was either. Ask gardenergirl for details on this one. I've never done it.
Realize that the www is a vast place, and that there are a lot of therapists in the USA/Canada/UK/Australia. I'm not sure what country you live in. You haven't dropped many personal details. I know that it's easy to feel paranoid when we feel guilty, and especially when we're holding a big secret. It will be okay though Elaine. It will all be okay, because you know that there is something wrong going on, and you are persisitent and determined and articulate enough to get the help you need, not only on psycho-babble, but also in real life.
If it will help you be open on Wed, just tell the new T that you are not comfortable giving too much personal identifying information in the first session. And I think she'll be okay with that, especially if you give her the reason for your visit. You may need to tell her about your treatment history, at least concerning your most recent treatments, since that's causing you such distress right now.
just a few thoughts?
have a good Monday, E
your friend,
-ll
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