Posted by starloree on April 25, 2006, at 18:44:55
In reply to Crush on My Counselor- Out of Control?, posted by DisposableDoll on April 25, 2006, at 17:52:56
oh gosh, i know what you're going through!!!! i was almost exactly where you are, a few weeks ago. i didn't exactly decide it was/is transference, cause i myself don't see, with my life, who i could be assicating my T with, cause he's nothing like my father or anything...i just sum it up as being attracted to him,pure and simple. he is only about 2 years (at most) older than me, he is a grad student (supervised) at my university. so of course, like you, i have been trying to coincidentaly place myself in the building where i know he frequents (the psychology building) even though i have no calsses there! i made a plan that if i did run into my T, i would tellhim that i was in the building because it is the quietest, and i was doing some homework. but i haven't had to use that excuse yet, because i haven't actually really talked to him outside of session. there were a couple times, right after session when i was waiting to be picked up, and he was around the area, and we kind of talked, but not really, cause i couldn't manage conversation!!!!!i felt so dumb afterwards, i mean here'smy big chance to wow him with my conversational skills (not just talk his ear off about my problems), and i act like an idiot! anyways just to let you know,you are not crazy!!!!! you should tell your T, a lot of people suggested that to me, and i tell you, it was hard at first, but i figured, hey, this guy is getting paid to listen to me, and to try to help me, so this is a problem i am dealing with (it was absolute TORMENT!!!! for a while there) and i should get this off my chest. he was VERY understanding, and handled it well, especially for a grad student!!!! so anyways, i will just stop here and let you know you aren't crazy!
starloree
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