Posted by Emily Elizabeth on December 8, 2005, at 23:19:08
In reply to Rough again, again with the Survivor stuff, posted by Racer on December 8, 2005, at 13:34:33
Wow, many people had very insightful replies. I thought that I'd just add what I associated to. One of the things that I personally struggle with is a deep, very hard to shake, sense of inner "badness." When those feelings of badness are stirred up, it is often very hard to accept support and kind words. In fact, it feels like, "If you really knew me, you would know how bad I am and not say kind things. The fact that you are saying kind things means that you don't really know me."
In your case, I was thinking that telling you that you are a survivor is difficult for part of you to understand--the (subconscious?) part that wants to say, "But I deserved it! It was my fault!"
Healing early pain is a long and painful process. Be kind to yourself.
Best,
EE
poster:Emily Elizabeth
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