Posted by Tamar on October 26, 2005, at 5:48:19
In reply to Re: What's the difference between... » Tamar, posted by orchid on October 25, 2005, at 20:04:59
> The difference actually depends on what the outcome you are trying to achieve out of it.
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> If all you want is to feel sorry for yourself and, then going over the pain might end up just as a pointless rumination.I don’t think I’ve ever consciously wanted to feel sorry for myself. But maybe I’m not always completely honest with myself.
> If however, you are trying towards healing, and trying to make peace with it, or trying to understand what happened and why you felt the way you did, going over the pain might lead to useful knowledge and healing.
Sometimes I think I’m doing that. But I wonder if I’m deceiving myself and whether I’m really just whining about things that happened 30 years ago and should be long forgotten.
> I think you haven't used this board as much as you could have to work out your issues with the sexual assault in your past. Perhaps for other issues also.
Maybe so. The thing that prompted this post wasn’t about the sexual assault stuff. It was about a teacher I loved when I was a little kid who didn’t love me (recognise a theme there?).
> Maybe trying to write here will be a good way of going over the pain in a very constructive way.
Yeah, perhaps. I suppose I’m also not sure of the difference between using this board to talk about therapy and using this board to do therapy!
> ((Tamar))Thanks for the hugs. I needed that!
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