Posted by daisym on October 25, 2005, at 23:34:30
In reply to What's the difference between..., posted by Tamar on October 25, 2005, at 18:39:23
I think it might depend on where and when you do the thinking. But your question seems based on the false assumption that you can (or should or shouldn't) choose to think about sad things or not. Isn't distraction one way to tolerate pain?
Sometimes I find myself sitting, and realize that I've lost an hour or so to memories or daydreams or thoughts. I come out of it but typically I keep hurting, the feelings stay with me, even if I go "do" something else.
So, I didn't answer the question -- but maybe the real question is "Is it OK to feel bad about the same stuff over and over again?" I think of James Kirk in Star Trek V -- "I want my pain. I need my pain. My pain is part of who I am..." Maybe there is a lot of truth to this?
I still wish you didn't have any. :(
Hugs from me,
Daisy
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