Posted by alexandra_k on August 19, 2005, at 20:49:00
In reply to Re: Attachment » alexandra_k, posted by Suzy_A on August 19, 2005, at 20:37:55
> I feel the same way. By looking back, I can understand what is behind some of my problems but knowing why I do them doesn't fix them.
Yeah. Although I'm starting to have some thoughts... But I don't know. Change is painful I guess.
>To make things worse for me, my mom lives with me about half of the year so she is a constant reminder of the problems that I have with her.
Ugh.
> BTW, not only did I not want my mom to touch me as a child, she has told me a story that indicates that I flaunted the fact that I didn't want her to touch me but would allow it from someone else.Yeah... But hard to figure how much of that is your stuff and how much of that is her stuff...
If she was invasive and wanted to hold you etc when you didn't want to be held then I think over time you would withdraw more from her... And then if there was someone else who was more sensitive to leaving you be when you needed that then it would make sense that you might let them be closer to you.
I don't know.
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