Posted by Suzy_A on August 19, 2005, at 2:47:15
In reply to Attachment, posted by alexandra_k on August 18, 2005, at 18:44:14
I've been lurking for awhile and this is my first post.
I really never formed a healthy attachment with my mom. She tells me that at a few months old I would lay awake in my crib but not cry to be picked up. As a toddler, she says that I was really cold towards her like not wanting her to touch me. I still have a hard time letting her touch me. She also was a really bad parent but she doesn't remember it. She has a different memory of our childhood that my brothers and I have. I still have not forgiven her for some of the things that she did but I can't discuss them with her without telling her what really happened and hurting her.
I was really afraid of my dad as a todler and then he moved out when I was 5 so there wasn't much of a chance to form an attachment with him.
As an adult, I have a really hard time forming attachments, and have formed very few. It never occured to me that it could be tied to the attachments that I had (or didn't have) with my parents.
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