Posted by Dinah on February 1, 2005, at 9:24:00
In reply to Re: Sleeping » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on January 29, 2005, at 20:25:09
I talked to him about the CBT yesterday. I told him the key was not to mention any of the CBT words like negative self talk or positive affirmations. Especially positive affirmations. I turn off instantly when I hear those words, and may in fact miss the bit of value they may contain.
I especially hate positive affirmations. He won't let me make them reasonable and believable, so that saying them just sets off an echo of derisive snorts and eye rolling.
He says that he, like me, has trouble finding alternate words sometimes. :) Sweet of him to personalize it like that. I like that about him. I told him he managed it the first day, that I had confidence he could do it again.
As far as not noticing. It's not like him. I think I've been difficult to understand lately. He told me yesterday that he didn't remember laughing at what I had said the other day (prompting my quitting), but that if he had, it was probably in stress or anxiety. Which means I've been stressing him and making him anxious lately. :( He's also mentioned a few times that he has been having trouble understanding what I'm saying.
I don't *feel* like I've suddenly lost the ability to be articulate, but that's certainly been the feedback I've been getting. (Just see admin. lol.)
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