Posted by daisym on September 16, 2004, at 18:57:04
In reply to Re: Just Need to Babble - sorry, long » daisym, posted by Aphrodite on September 16, 2004, at 7:00:42
moments? I was thinking along the lines of weeks or months! I know you are going through a lot too.
I did ask today how he takes care of himself and he told me. It was reassuring after pouring out so much pain on him today.
I've asked him before what he was thinking and he usually tells me if he is conflicted. He and I have talked about how well tuned my antenna is to another person's feelings, especially frustration and anger. So anytime I think he is frustrated I tend to get freaked. But I've learned to ask and check out if I'm correct. The hardest feelings are when I feel disconnected and I can't tell if it is him or me. Then we have to battle back to our relationship in order for me to feel safe again. And we do this over and over and over again.
I hope it gets easier soon. For both of us.
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