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Re: my response and another question lucy stone

Posted by fallsfall on June 6, 2004, at 10:39:45

In reply to Re: my response and another question, posted by lucy stone on June 6, 2004, at 8:59:34

My therapist wears both bowties and regular ties. I like the bowties because to me they symbolize that he is willing to be different - to think outside the box. He also is less fussy about himself when he wears a bowtie - he isn't making sure that his tie is lying just so on his shirt when he sits down. I had made a passing (pleased) comment once "You have worn bowties 3 sessions in a row". I didn't say anything else about the bowties until he hadn't worn any for a couple of weeks (I see him 3 times a week and he usually has a bowtie on at least one of the 3). Recently we had an intense, but not painful session and as I was leaving I said "I think that you have lost all of your bowties". He agreed that it had been a while since he had worn one. He didn't wear one the next session (he would NEVER let me tell him what to do...) but he wore one the session after that, and has been wearing them regularly since. I know that if I comment too regularly that he will stop wearing them because he will see it as a control issue.

He never comments on my appearance, but I really wear the same kind of thing every day (the question is whether I've washed my hair). I wore a dress once when I was on the way to my father-in-law's funeral - we talked about my plans for the rest of the day, but not necessarily related to my clothing.

 

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