Posted by DaisyM on May 27, 2004, at 19:41:00
In reply to My T, posted by antigua on May 27, 2004, at 17:11:03
I think the reason I couldn't work with a woman Therapist is because of my complicated feelings about my mother. She is so great, totally someone to look up to. But she "mentored" me, she didn't mother me. And she didn't save me from the abuse, therefore she failed me. I had to keep the secret from her to protect her.
I met with 2 women Therapist at the beginning of all this. One wanted me to find my inner goddess (um, I don't have one - note the corporate suit please!) and she like to touch me to demonstrate things. (she wanted to hold my hand, touch my back, etc.) Which felt really dangerous. The other was an older woman, totally corporate, the CEO of the Psych corporation she worked for. She saw limited patients so i was "lucky" to get into to see her. I thought she would understand the work stress and my need to keep it together. She
wanted to talk about my marriage and told me I was a great "little actress" about how together I was and that we had "a lot of work to do." This all in the first meeting. Then she referred one of her clients to my agency. I called to tell her I didn't want to work with her and she told me that was "regretful because you really need me".That was when I decided to try a guy. It has turned out very well for me. I think with a woman I had to prove I am competent and can handle it all. For some reason, I don't feel like that with a male. Or maybe it is just my Therapist. When I first met him, he didn't do an inventory or take a history. He just talked to me. Told me what he believed. It was a good start.
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