Posted by Dinah on May 6, 2004, at 9:22:08
In reply to Re: Now more anger.., posted by tabitha on May 5, 2004, at 23:17:50
FWIW, when I first came to Babble, I was in constant pain. Anger and upset seemed to come with the territory. My husband wanted me to stop Babbling entirely. My therapist put me on forced Babble breaks. It was one long crisis after another. I just wasn't used to interacting with others. The quintissential loner.
But in the end, I think I grew more than I would have in years of therapy without Babble. It brought out issues that wouldn't have been brought out in one on one therapy. It made me see things in myself that I considered virtues maybe weren't virtues at all.
Of course, the main difference was that I had a therapist who had no connection to Babble and absolutely no investment in it. Of course, Babble is different from group because, since I brought in posts, he was able to see all sides of the interaction without being involved. I guess in group, if a therapist isn't there they can't see more than the client's point of view.
It's a hard call. And harder because being in the group is destabilizing an important supportive relationship in your life. Have you talked about this with your therapist? Not the individual interactions in the group, but the effect that group is having on your life. Your fear that you are losing her in the way you used to have her?