Posted by Dinah on February 17, 2004, at 0:19:31
In reply to I got an F on my Homework, posted by DaisyM on February 16, 2004, at 23:29:11
That's not an "F", that's a "continuing to improve". :) Which is all any of us can hope for. If we ever are completely perfect at it, we won't need it anymore.
And you proved it by going on to discuss something that it really took a lot of trust in your therapist for you to discuss.
Could it be that you told him all that because you trust him not to think less of you for it, and you were right.
And maybe you feel bad about it, because it's hard to shake off all those old rules about it not being ok to need something? I'm just guessing there.
My therapist tells me (all the time) that there's nothing wrong with needing or wanting whatever I need or want. And there's nothing wrong with asking for whatever I need or want. And there's nothing wrong with finding out that sometimes the answer is yes, and sometimes the answer is I'm sorry but no.
That's what he tells me, though I don't yet believe it.
So I especially admire your courage, and I'm glad your therapist responded admirably.
poster:Dinah
thread:314418
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