Posted by helenag on January 9, 2004, at 22:28:37
In reply to Re: helenlag, why is it so difficult, posted by antigua on January 9, 2004, at 19:43:28
We have even more in common...my husband dislikes my father with a great passion as well! As well, my father has been a source of turmoil for me. I am fortunate in that I have done much much work in therapy over the years and am relatively at peace with those issues now.
Dealing with the emotional stuff that the booze helped quell is hard work. Not for the faint hearted, that's for sure. I have been unable to stay sober for any great length of time, in spite of AA, a great sponsor,etc. A friend told me something that has helped, however. He told me to do what makes me happy. Drinking does not make me happy. I end up kicking myself every time.
Back to husbands...I am uncertain as to what direction to take. Guess time will tell. It's my best guess that my husband has no idea how I feel. He's probably very glad that I avoid talking about myself to him--he's spared, whew!!!. As long as I am appearing well and functional and have no signs of mental or emotional struggle, life is good for him. In a way, it's like a huge denial that I have to play along with and it has developed into a situation where I no longer share much of my inner self with him anymore.
Thank you so much for writing about this. You have no idea how much help it was to me to know that I am not alone in struggling with a situation like this. Let me know how things are going. helen.
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