Posted by Flame on April 14, 2006, at 8:43:41
My husband has been very depressed since his father passed away 8 years ago. He has tried prescription after prescription, doctor after doctor in trying to find the "magic pill" to "fix" himself.
After about a year of not working much (he is self-employed and I work full time) I told him that he needed to get back to work. I told him that he had to stop waiting to "feel" like working and to just start doing it! He hemmed and hawed, telling me at first that the work is just not out there (which is somewhat true .. contractor work IS way down.) But, this excuse has not stopped his partner from bringing in MORE than his montly draw, last year. When I told him that he needed to get out there and "make" work for himself .. he then went on to tell me that he thinks that he is basically done working. (For his life-time.) He is only 51! He has asthma (and smokes) .. is on Effexor/375 mg for his depression, Mirapex for Restless legs, and Ambien for sleep. He drinks ALMOST every night and spends a lot of money at the bar. His doc has basically told him that nothing will help him until he stops the heavy drinking. I totally agree, but my husband does not. He believes that his drinking does nothing to exacerbate his symptoms .. and that the drinking just helps him to cope.
My question, after probably a lot of TMI above, is have any of you here had luck with taking something that compliments Effexor? I am wondering if there might be something that I could "suggest" or "ask" his psychiatrist about .. that would help his motivation, etc?
I am almost at my wits end with my husband and all of his problems. His lack of participation in our financial picture has really (almost) been the clincher in pushing me over the edge. I can't live like we have been much longer!