Posted by flame on April 15, 2006, at 6:48:40
In reply to Re: Husband Giving Up ... » Flame, posted by Meri-Tuuli on April 15, 2006, at 4:51:28
Hi Meri,
So obviously, with your reference to feeling "plastic" you were feeling basically nothing? .. And the alcohol brought you, once again, back to "feeling" again?There was another reference to how the Effexor just made you crave carbs (alcohol) because of how it worked in your system. (Really can't remember all the details.) But that was another's analogy. And then there was even another that said it was a bad drug to put someone that already had addiction problems on. Of course my husband's dr. would have no idea of his past, 'cause I'm sure my husband wouldn't mention it.
I'm wondering if you're right (once again!) about the Effexor sapping his motivation? Apathy? .. I don't know??
Let me tell you this. My husband can/will do all of the things HE wants to do. He has hobbies that he gets into BIG TIME .. devotes all of his time to. There are many things that my husband does DO, but in my opinion, it has to be something *HE* wants to do. That's what gets me so frustrated about his feelings about never working again. How can he say something to the effect of "I am pretty much done working for my lifetime. I just don't have it in me anymore." And then go on his merry way to spend large amounts of time doing something else? Makes no sense to me at all! (Maybe this is the Effexor talking?)
Yes, I wish it was just 3 or 4 beers a night .. nope! My husband has AT LEAST 10 beers (probably more) a night and always winds up the night with a shot or two.
I've been thinking the past couple of days. I am almost wondering if he gets a big time buzz out of taking his Ambien when he gets home from the bar at night. (So he looks forward to that buzz?) He looks and acts awful when he does this, but it has become common practice now. It has to be important to him, 'cause we CAN have very good sex, UNLESS he takes the ambien after drinking. I have told him this time and time again, but it doesn't seem to matter to him. Thus the theory of him looking forward to his nightly ambien/alcohol buzz.
I sure do appreciate you taking the time to tell me how Effexor made you feel. Some very important things for me to try to bring up to my husband's dr. (IF my husband will allow me to accompany him ever again!)
Thanks! ~Flame
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