Posted by Dog on December 11, 2003, at 10:48:56
In reply to Re: Surreal, that/Magnesium?, posted by DeeJay on December 11, 2003, at 8:39:54
Deej,
remember that alcohol is a depressant, not an anti-depressant... combining the two is like "pissing into the wind"...no matter how, at times, a few drinks might make you feel better for a little while, just remember you don't have to drink to relax and/or have a good time... please talk to your Dr. about drinking w/ the Wellbutrin: i don't think you're supposed to... that pain in your insides last night could well have been a physiological rxn to the mixing of the two and not just psychological...plus, the way you feel today might be a result of the mixing.... the next time you do it could be disastrous...
your Dad at 59: though he looks 42, i don't think w/ a 10 yr. younger wife, he has much to worry about losing her before he himself goes...unless she has some sort of chronic fatal disease...tell him i think he better grab onto her and make it legal before some other younger "studmeister" comes along... it can happen to the best of us...i have been a pastor and i've officiated at a lot of weddings and i know the vows say: "as long as we both shall live" or "till death do we part"... his right to re-marriage is Biblical...his "promise" to your dying mom was not, and was probably made not with a lot of thought but was made to comfort his dying loved one and doesn't hold water...your late Mom and your Dad are now no longer legally tied Biblically or otherwise..if you want tell him about me, your minister-friend, who has studied the Bible in its original languages and knows pretty well what it says about a lot of things, whatever he says he thinks of the Bible...if he loves her, desires her, wants to share his life with her, etc. , the real crime against your Mom's memory, and even God would be that he doesn't marry her...
your dying mom: must have went on for awhile, huh? Re dealing with it and escapism thru school: give yourself a break, no one deals with death in a "correct" way... that is we all deal with it differently and there is no "correct" way...i can think of far worse ways to deal with it than school plays... i bet your Mom was very proud of you being in drama, i know i would be...
you're 24? i can't believe the maturity i sense in you... are all 24 yr. olds nowadays as mature and sophisticated as you are? i don't think so...
i don't want to be your conscience... like "jiminy cricket", but... this drinking stuff: i don't know. the way i was, i used to get silly, slapping, laughing drunk, porcelain (sp?) throne-hugging drunk, do foolish, even destructive things, spend all my money, wreck my car, say stupid things that i'd regret, get beat-up (Ouch!, but usually it took more than one guy), have sex with some nasty bar slut(s), pass out, then in the morning-afters I'd swear off drinking "forever", then a few nights later, i'd be right back at it...sound like a bad country-western song? whatever it was i was living it, except it wasn't pretty, it was ugly, sickening, and disgusting... it was a seemingly endless cycle...that is not you! not that you're anywhere near what i was or ever will be, but its just i want you to know my story...you're a person that can and will do better than i did and will go farther faster than i ever did or ever will ...i just want to warn you that drinking won't get you anywhere...that whole bar scene is a sham... i loved to drink... thats why i don't do it now: i'd like it too much and couldn't stop...i don't want to go back there...
yours, Dog (and please don't call me "Jiminy")ps: the magnesium thing sounds interesting...maybe i'll even read your work on it in a good journal someday... you're a good writer, maybe its time the world knew...
> Oh, I almost forgot...the magnesium stuff?....I simply asked my boss about it, and she decided that her and I might do a retrospective study on the link between physiology and low magnesium level depression in cancer patients....I'll let you know what I find out.
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> One day, I will know everything...;)
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> Deej
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