Posted by Lori on September 16, 1999, at 15:20:36
In reply to Re: Life on Meds...Approaching 40, posted by Dee on August 20, 1999, at 23:48:04
Dee -
I agree with most of what you said in your response to Yardena, however I have a daughter who is now 23 and I have been aware of her depression since she is old enough to express it -- about eight or nine years of age. My daughter is a pretty, intelligent, caring individual, but does not see any of her wonderful qualities. I have been providing an avenue for her to express and air those dark, horrible feelings, but it has not helped. It has taken me a long time to realize that I cannot make this disease go away by providing love and support. She has been in therapy since the age of 14, and on medication since 17. Nothing has helped. She is an incredibly strong girl because every day is a struggle for her; I fear I will lose her before she turns thirty because of the inability to control this beast -- how much longer can someone fight to find a reason to be alive? Sorry to go on so long, but just wanted to let you know that more is needed than a caring, supportive parent. My daughter also does not want to have children. I totally understand how she feels because she is the one who has to live in this hell everyday. However, we do not have a history of depression in our family, nor in my husbands -- so maybe it won't be passed on to the following generation if my daughter does have children....hard decisions.
I have been reading the posts on this website for months because it has truly helped me understand what so many of you go through and how hard you fight. It also helps me realize that my daughter is not alone in her fight. I admire you all -- you are special -- all in your own ways -- but also because you have experienced so much pain in life and have survived. I don't think most people understand unless they have been there.
Thanks for tolerating my verbosity.
poster:Lori
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