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Posted by ClearSkies on August 8, 2007, at 21:14:30
I went to a benefit this evening for a local dance instructor I know. She and I never hit it off - the last time I attempted a lesson with her I sat in my car and cried for an hour afterwards because I felt so out of my depth with her. I think she really pushed me hard, to see what my level of expertise is (which is somewhere between "beginner" and "intermediate" it turns out), and I wasn't up to any kind of challenge at the time. If anything, I'm less agile at the moment, but very passionate. But the teacher is an amazing performer. Self employed. Diagnosed with breast cancer, she's had a mastectomy and will be undergoing reconstructive surgery and chemotherapy. All without any health insurance. Hence the benefit evening. The restaurant was packed, and I'm glad I went.
So I talked a friend of mine into coming with me - there's no way I would have gone alone. I made a donation and we stayed for a while to watch some of the performers. They were all very curvy and heavy set women, and for the 10th time today I felt like crying. I wanted to dance too, and maybe I can. Just maybe. If someone can look like those beautiful women did and stand up with such self confidence and grace and perform, then maybe I can shake my bigger booty again.
I'm glad I went, and I'm surprised that it affected me the way it did. But dance has always struck me very deeply. Perhaps I am not being true to myself that I have cut myself off from dance during my fight with depression.
Maybe tomorrow I will dance, by myself, in my home. I will check back and report on whether or not I do.
cs
Posted by karen_kay on August 9, 2007, at 12:12:32
In reply to I am having a dog, posted by ClearSkies on August 8, 2007, at 21:14:30
i can't spell having correctly
i have precisely 115 messages in my inbox (don't ask, i've already posted about it).
i had company who grunts about everything from the television being on, to star*ucks, to walmart, she tells my child 'no' (my job, not hers, she has reproductive organs, she can have her own to yell at, thank you), yet she doesn't dare say a word.
i went off on my mother yesterday, complete freak out, hung up, quickly called her back. she hadn't realized i hung up on her and i politely asked her what i could do to make her life better. it worked. i didn't get the 'you're dead to me' quote. that stinks to recover from (yes, i've heard it before and laughed, as i thought it was a joke. realizing it wasn't a joke, i had to kiss her *ss for months to get back in her graces.)
the van won't start. we think it's been running on no oil (thanks silly sister who never checks gauges) for a while now, as the dipstick (not silly sister, but oil stick) reads 'idiot' and van laughs when we try to start it. the mirror hanging off is least of worries.
oh, did i mention my mother's on her way here and i'm out of grass to smoke?
i might be having a dinosaur rather than a dog.
Posted by Phillipa on August 9, 2007, at 12:56:31
In reply to I am having a dog, posted by ClearSkies on August 8, 2007, at 21:14:30
Clear Skies are you dancing? Love Phillipa
Posted by ClearSkies on August 9, 2007, at 13:03:15
In reply to i too am havign a dog, posted by karen_kay on August 9, 2007, at 12:12:32
Shall we trade mothers for a bit? Mine doesn't give a toss, really and truly, whether I live or want to die, yet says she gives herself ER-caliber migraines worrying about her children.
Oh, and I would love if you would have a few words with my step daughter's BF, as all he's done in the past week is leave increasingly profane voicemails on my hubby's cell phone telling him what a horrible family we are and how we wouldn't want to marry into such a rotten bunch of people. (And I'm supposed to like this guy because he's so nice to my step daughter? Uh, how about NOT. He makes my skin crawl and I know for certain that the feeling is mutual. We have saved that voicemail, where he outlined his particular feelings towards me, as a reminder to us all of the strength and utter venom of his words. The step daughter is mortified that we'll actually play it at some point.)
I tell ya, families are a pain - and to see our children being parented by others makes US into children all over again. It hurts, it makes it hurt all over again. So my therapist so sagely told me today. My pain is her pain is my pain. Oi.
(((((Karen Kay)))))
Posted by ClearSkies on August 9, 2007, at 13:15:57
In reply to Re: I am having a dog » ClearSkies, posted by Phillipa on August 9, 2007, at 12:56:31
> Clear Skies are you dancing? Love Phillipa
No, my back hurts too much. But I went to the chiropractor, and he yanked some bits back into place so maybe by tomorrow. And I'm dancing in my heart, does that count?
cs
Posted by Damos on August 9, 2007, at 18:12:25
In reply to Re: I am having a dog » Phillipa, posted by ClearSkies on August 9, 2007, at 13:15:57
Hey CS,
So I guess a tango is out of the question then???
Well I'm happy to do a gentle waltz with you anytime - just don't forget to wear your steel-capped boots as the only stepping I seem to be good at is usually onto other people's toes ;-)
(((((ClearSkies)))))
P.S: Dancing in your heart counts for a lot.
Posted by Kath on August 14, 2007, at 13:24:29
In reply to Re: I am having a dog » Phillipa, posted by ClearSkies on August 9, 2007, at 13:15:57
Dancing in your heart counts bigtime. And helps improve your skills also - well, I guess if you dance in your mind also.
I actually did most of my learning how to do a certain type of skiing by watching others do it as I'd go up the hill on the chair-lift!!! I'd keep trying it & watching everyone & all of a sudden I was doing it!!!
What kind of dancing is it that you like CS?
love, Kath & hope your back is feeling better.
xoxo
Posted by Kath on August 14, 2007, at 13:25:07
In reply to I am having a dog, posted by ClearSkies on August 8, 2007, at 21:14:30
PS - did you use an Indian accent while saying that?
K
Posted by ClearSkies on August 14, 2007, at 21:01:38
In reply to Re: I am having a dog » ClearSkies, posted by Kath on August 14, 2007, at 13:24:29
> What kind of dancing is it that you like CS?
>It's the kind that uses veils and finger cymbals and has its roots throughout the Mediterranean countries and the Middle East. It is not lap dancing.
> love, Kath & hope your back is feeling better.
> xoxoYes, one more trip to the chiropractor should it!
CS
Posted by Kath on August 15, 2007, at 14:36:15
In reply to Re: I am having a dog » Kath, posted by ClearSkies on August 14, 2007, at 21:01:38
A friend of mine has been involved in that for years.
Here (in Ontario) we call it 'belly dancing' but I suppose the connotation could be the sultry-one-with-the-come-hither-eyes!!! LOL
I would like to try it sometime. I am quite sure that there's a group in a 15 minute away town. I think it's still there.
A friend of mine is an artist & she did some amazing acrylic paintings of some of the women dancing. It was amazing how she caught the movements & the filmyness of the cloth, etc.
I hope you're soon painfree enough to do it & as to how you look or how proficient you are, I would have thought the main thing was the experience of it for YOU.
I felt teed off when you said it was as though that person was testing you or pushing you!
Not very darn nice!!I always am sort of 'blown away' by how we (women as a group) can be SO supportive & nurturing of each other ORRRRRRRRR can be absolutely horrible!!
((((((((((((((((((((CS))))))))))))))))))
love, Kath
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