Posted by alexandra_k on January 13, 2005, at 19:03:49
In reply to and the dire prophecies the day after, posted by zeugma on January 13, 2005, at 18:01:54
>everytime i turn to a therapist for empathy i get coldness and stupidity.
Yes. I do think that there is a preference for clients who tend to idealise. Makes the therapist feel good. Makes them want to help. Some people are easier to impress than others. Do you think that CBT might be especially hard to take for the philosophically inclined because of the great value we put on rationality? To be told all our problems are due to 'cognitive errors' or 'distorted thinking' is just too hard to bear?
But which lens you adopt isn't a matter of logic.
The world of the happy is quite another than that of the unhappy.
But that is not a matter of logic.
It isn't faulty thinking that causes distress
It is the lens
The whole way of being.
I don't know, I am just talking here...
I have decided never to work with another CBT therapist.
But I haven't written off therapy completely.
It is hard to find a good therapist.
I don't know why.
I don't know why.
Empathy is so hard to come by.
I think it is because people want to help by changing you.
Changing your thinking.
But acceptance is change.
Why can't they understand that?
Acceptance is change.
Especially when one has never been
Properly accepted before.
Sometimes they don't need to DO anything.
I tried explaining this to my last therapist.
She had a breakdown cause she was trying to change me all the time.
I told her she didn't need to do anything.
She said she couldn't do that ethically.
What a f*cked up world
Stupidity. Maybe it is arrogant but I am inclined to agree.
Stupidity, ignorance, inability to empathise.
But then the system isn't geared to the likes of you or me.
And not many therapists.
Not many therapists either.
So sometimes all that is left is to do it in spite of them.
Therapists can f*ck you up so much.
I swear that the system produced BPD symptoms in me
BECAUSE WHAT THE HELL DO YOU HAVE TO DO TO BE TAKEN SERIOUSLY AROUND HERE?
It is a sick sick world.