Posted by sunny10 on April 13, 2005, at 13:20:27
In reply to Re: Life After Addictions » sunny10, posted by Larry Hoover on April 13, 2005, at 11:12:25
Lar,
Thank you so much for just validating the fact that I had posted... that alone means so much.
I have just had two phone calls. One relieving one- I got an approval to move in a new apartment on Saturday. The other was confusing, hopeful, and scary all at once. My significant other called, made all of the apologies he had neglected for the past four days, and said that he is quitting drinking (he is a binge drinker; he gives himself permission to "make a night out of it" and loses control of his anger). He also said that he wants to try living separately, to go to couples counselling together, and probably go to individual counselling, too.
I know that promises made by someone capable of these binges can be suspect, thus the trepidation I feel. But I am safe now. The tears in his voice while he told me how ashamed of himself he was did convnce me that he is no longer angry and "out to get me". He is living with his mother for the summer, at least, he said. I have a good relationship with his mother.
Say lots of prayers for me while I try to puzzle all of this out. I am mostly trying to figure out if it could ever possibly work if I work on the co-dependent part of what's wrong with me, while he focusses on WHY he feels the need to binge.
Sometimes two wrongs can't make a right, but sometimes a blind person and a deaf person can mend a fence. I just don't know which two we are.
-sunny10
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