Posted by alexandra_k on July 27, 2013, at 0:29:20
I was watching this youtube documentary on this guy who does surgery in Cambodia:
2/3 @ 10.20:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b3do0GlPtHU
'If I say things nice and quietly they don't always react'
'you don't need these fingers now...'
'they are paying attention to the tone more than what the words are'
'so i've got to change the tone depending on what i want done'if... that mode of communication is no longer accepted... then how do you get people to do things?
do things get done the way they used to - or does less get done now?
i do understand that social skills are about manipulating people into doing what you want them to do in a way that they are grateful / happy to do it (though putting it like that makes me sound like a sociopath). and i get that most people don't like being barked at... but how do you get them to respond quickly to a simple instruction said only once, then?
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i mean... in a system where selection against those who bark is okay but where selection against those who are incapable of following a simple instruction said once would be wrong, somehow.
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