Posted by garnet71 on June 2, 2009, at 2:09:21
In reply to Re: If he calls me sexy, posted by Deneb on June 2, 2009, at 1:58:47
Deneb, I have to tell you because I can't stand it anymore - from everything you said - this guy sounds like a total player. Even if you want to be just friends, he seems like he would try to manipulate you, mess with your head, send confusing mixed messages..aka player.
I know there's some good guys on those sites, but so many liars, players, and sex addicts. You sound very trusting-like everyone you meet is going to present themselves exactly as they are. That does not always happen. Be careful, is all.
You seem like you could get hurt real bad, do you think it's a good time to be dating? Maybe you could take a break until you discuss this with your therapist? You just seem so innocent and vulnerable, and I mean that in a good way, but I get very uncomfortable reading your posts about this subject.
Maybe it would be better if you joined some Meet Up groups or a sports or travel group to do fun things - as a group - with coeds - friends as opposed to dating? It just seems like you are getting upset and hurt, but you only went on one date with this guy. What if you were dating someone several times, how upset and hurt would you get with another triggering interaction?
If you were my sister, I'd say to not date until you talked to your therapist about these experiences and thoughts. Do you have girlfriends to discuss this with at all?
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