Posted by Kath on October 10, 2008, at 22:22:02
In reply to Re: :-( So stressed. Make that STRESSED, posted by WaterSapphire on October 9, 2008, at 23:47:33
Thx Chelle,
Thx for the excellent details. They coincide with info I got from a carpet cleaning company I phoned today!! They suggested that first, to go there & spray vinegar just in case. They mentioned the enzyme (sp?) solution.
When I put my nose down to the carpet here & there I can't smell cat pee, but i didn't smell the whole carpet!! You can't see any marks on it.
Tonight, son, hubby, son's friend & I went, armed with vinegar & spray bottles. As soon as we opened the door from outside, we were HIT with cat pee smell!! :-((((((( Not even in his room, but in the entryway & kitchen & the whole place!! (except the bathroom).
Today son & I met with his mental health caseworker. Last night son told me that he had been using "K" (ketamine) for a couple of days. Not in a 'partying' way, but because he was so stressed out! VERY disturbing for me to learn this. So today in our meeting, he said that he is quite concerned about moving out on his own. He is afraid that he won't be able to do as well in controlling his drug use. (The biggie is cocaine.) It was very scarey for me to hear this. We came up with some strategies on what things he can do to help him cope for 1 week. It includes seeing her twice during the week. It also involves him spending some of his time at his apartment & some at our house; a sort of transition time.
He wants to get a part time job. We all feel this will be good for him. Last time he lived on his own, he got very lonely & it triggered drug-use. He's really stressed about moving & doesn't know if he can 'make a go of it' on his own. He's nervous about what his roommate (person who rents the other room in the little apartment) will be like. [at THIS rate, with the cat pee hitting you in the face as you enter the place, I don't know if there'll BE a roommate....son was desparate for a place & also landlady had door wide open & said she'd be cleaning the carpet. Silly us.]
Have you ever WISHED that you could turn back the clock & redo something? That's how I feel BIGTIME right now.
The thing that I was so glad about (1-year rental agreement) has now turned out to be NOT a good thing.
Thx for your support! hugs, Kath
I'm not super religious. I do sort of pray, I guess. But mostly I tend to feel frantic or whiney or NOT wanting to have this all be real.
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