Posted by Dinah on June 28, 2008, at 9:45:43
In reply to Re: i'm the worst..., posted by tootercat on June 27, 2008, at 17:18:06
Hi. It's good to see you again. :)
I'm really really glad that you left that situation with your husband. Having the self respect not to accept that kind of treatment is even more important than having respect for others in your family.
Fortunately things aren't that bad with my husband. In fact, he's my best friend in many ways. Definitely no physical abuse, and no verbal abuse in terms of vicious belittlement. When he's under stress, though, things that are normally at acceptable levels get amplified.
It's just that I really don't understand the thought concept that it's ok to behave to family in a way that isn't ok to behave to others.
Since I've calmly spoken to him he's started behaving much better. The good thing is that he expects as much from himself as he does from others.
poster:Dinah
thread:836210
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