Posted by Dinah on February 6, 2008, at 15:39:50
In reply to Re: Still feel bad, posted by Deneb on February 6, 2008, at 15:32:38
Deneb, if someone steps on your toe everytime you see them, it might be wise to take your toe out of their way.
Your sister is saying mean things every time you see her. It's time to draw boundaries. It's ok to walk away if she's choosing to overstep the line. It's ok to tell her you love her but you are going to choose not to be around her until she's ready to talk respectfully adult to adult. Don't let her get past the first line of her dialog.
You aren't going to get anything useful from her right now. At least try to minimize the hurt she can inflict.
If you can't get away from her, at least recognize what's happening and put on your strongest psychic footwear so she can't actually do your toes any harm.
If you are mature, keep your head, and walk away, she's going to look pretty bad in comparison, don't you think? Maybe even to you. You keep comparing yourself unfavorably to her, but would you act this way?
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