Posted by Kath on July 26, 2007, at 15:58:12
In reply to Re: Tips on DETACHMENT re:Kids? Son'sRehabIntake e, posted by antigua3 on July 26, 2007, at 12:02:32
I've heard about it. We don't have TV...unhooked cable years ago when our son wasn't living here for a while & never bothered to rehook it up. I only miss it at Olympics time.
> The truth is that they have to find their own way.
.....you're right. They do & it's hard to sit back, know what would be best (probably) & see them head in a different direction.And if your son doesn't want to consider total abstinence, IMO, he is already resistent.
......yeah, I agree. He's 23; partying is a big part of his & his friends' lives.> Thinking you have to be totally abstinent for the rest of your life can really derail someone in the beginning, but all the person has to say is, today I won't use cocaine. Don't think too far ahead in the beginning, just remind him to think of now, today, this moment. And then if things work well, the moments build on the moments until it's hours, etc.
> just a tangent. hope I didn't offend,
> antigu........no, you didn't offend me at all. They're wise words & actually helped me look at what an enormous thing it would be for him to look at being totally abstinent at this point. He went to an NA meeting 2 days ago & said to me the next day, that he just isn't there at this point...as far as not drinking either. That cocaine is his problem, but he's not ready to give up everything.
So, that's pretty clear. He's been open about that from the beginning, but I think that if he does go to rehab, & can get through it, he's got to benefit from the counselling, skill building etc that would happen there.
Thanks for your support & for caring.
hugs, Kath
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