Posted by Sigismund on July 25, 2007, at 18:47:46
In reply to Re: Tips on DETACHMENT re:Kids? Son'sRehabIntake e » Kath, posted by ClearSkies on July 25, 2007, at 18:23:54
Hello Kath
My nice doctor was talking about some mind f*ck-up someone had and remarked that he thought it might take a generation or two to work itself out.
Apart from taking the long view, how can you possibly detach from the sufferings of your children?And it cuts the other way too.
When my mother had agitated depression and I was her main contact in the world, I became convinced that it was important to feel her despair, not try to lessen it, which she would have made impossible anyway. That is to say, I took her (so called) depression to be (shall we say) a kind of theatre that was designed to communicate intense anguish. I could either allow this, or I could fight it, and I'm very glad I allowed it.
It was the most painful thing I have ever experienced, but through/after it I had the best time I'd ever had with her.Does this seem at all relevant?
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