Posted by Deneb on November 30, 2006, at 1:37:32
In reply to Re: I'm really upset » Deneb, posted by Lindenblüte on November 29, 2006, at 8:22:39
> Maybe you can try writing down how you feel and what events made you feel this way. Take your journal to your T/Pdoc, and try to incorporate it into your discussions.
That's a good idea. I'll take note of things I've written.
> It can be difficult in written correspondence. But it's fairly obvious in face to face communication. When sending e-mails, letters, and text messages you can have no way of knowing whether your conversational partner even GOT your message. You have no way of knowing whether they are actively ignoring you and dumping all your correspondence into the garbage. You have no way of distinguishing a delay that occurs because of accidental loss of mail, actively ignoring you, or merely being too preoccupied to respond.
Thanks for reminding me of that. It's easy to get impatient sometimes, but I've probably lost track of a few e-mails before, with no intention of ignoring someone.
> > I just don't learn. I post threats impulsively. They never lead to any good.
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> Deneb, everyone is going to slip up from time to time. A lot of psycho-babble posts are probably impulsive. That's okay. Please try to understand how much it hurts ME when I see you threaten to harm yourself because of miscommunication or disagreement. You are very dear to me, and I don't want you to do anything to yourself. I know you hurt sometimes. That is very natural, very human. Racer is right- there are ways to communicate this without threats of hurting yourself.((((((((((((Li)))))))))))))
((((((((((((anyone I've hurt))))))))))))))I will try to remember how much it hurts others. I really need to step outside of myself sometimes. I need to learn to empathize more.
> It's okay Deneb. Therapy takes time. Can you tell us a little more about what you discuss in therapy? Do you discuss practical coping strategies? Do you talk about your childhood? Do you talk about how things that you learned as a child may be affecting how you think and behave as an adult?
Recently we've been talking about setting up realistic study schedules. We also talk about how I feel before I "binge" or purge. We don't really talk about my childhood. We just have time to talk about the problems I have currently. I think we do some cognitive therapy type stuff. I'm not very good at therapy. I usually don't know what I'm feeling or thinking.
Thanks for your help Li.
Deneb*
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