Posted by Deneb on November 29, 2006, at 1:32:43
In reply to Re: I'm really upset » Deneb, posted by Racer on November 28, 2006, at 0:54:51
> You know me, as far as I'm concerned EVERYONE is entitled to my own opinion, right? Anyway, I wanted to say that if you find writing about what you're feeling/thinking helpful, then it's a good thing to do. It is {ahem} a coping skill... Have you thought about writing a journal? Or even putting up a blog? You could write things there that might get you a PBC here. Might be helpful, or not, just a suggestion about another thing that you could try. IN ADDITION TO Babble, NOT in place of. (<<Wanted to get that clear...)
I need people to hear what I have to say so a blog might be a good idea. I don't want to write about people behind their backs though. I think I want Babblers to read my blog so I'll have to make sure it is civil.
> Yeah, being ignored is painful. Can you see that there's a difference between someone not answering you, and someone ignoring you? Or that someone might have personal reasons for not responding to you?
If there is a difference I can't tell which is which when it happens.
> Several weeks later, she finally responded, telling me that she was going through a rough time, and just generally not communicative, but was not upset with me.You wrote that you ignored me, so you were not upset with me?
> This next is something I've tried to say to you in the past. You don't have to threaten suicide to let people know you're upset. You can say, "I'm very upset right now," and most people here understand that that is NOT a meaningless statement. Most of us have been very upset ourselves, we know how painful it is, and we respect others who are experiencing that sort of pain. You do not have to up the ante by threatening suicide.
I just don't learn. I post threats impulsively. They never lead to any good.
> No one is suggesting that you need to change who you are, Deneb. People are suggesting that you might feel less pain, if you learned some new skills. It's kinda like taking a class to learn a new computer program -- it's about learning skills. That's all. The change you would make in therapy is to become a Deneb who knows more ways to cope with unpleasantness, and that's not a bad thing, is it?
I'm already getting therapy from my pdoc. I told my pdoc that people wanted me to see a T and she told me I'm already seeing a T, her. Maybe I'm just a slow learner. I'm already learning how to cope in therapy, I just don't get it yet.
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