Posted by Kath on May 22, 2006, at 16:38:14
In reply to Re: Can't detach from 22yr old son's stupid choices... » Kath, posted by fairywings on May 21, 2006, at 23:49:43
:-) Thanks. It IS eating me up.
Actually, this morning, I had a sort of revelation. I was reading an email from a friend who observed that I seem to want to control situations where I HAVE no control.
For some reason, the question popped into my head, "When, in my life, have I felt this kind of helplessness before?"
I started to cry & realized, to my surprise, that I felt this same kind of helplessness when I was in my early 20's & my Mom had cancer. I would have been my son's age now when she was very ill. I was 23 when she died. I have done VERY little grieving about her illness & death. When I realized the feelings are the same - the total helplessness about a loved one doing really poorly - I started to wonder if this is partly OLD STUFF. I've been feeling somewhat better today, knowing that not ALL these feelings are about my son.
Have any of you, in therapy or whatever, had issues that seemed current but turned out to be at least partly about old stuff?
K
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