Posted by Kath on May 31, 2006, at 9:36:11
In reply to Re: Can't detach from 22yr old son's stupid choices... » Kath, posted by Jakeman on May 27, 2006, at 0:52:53
Hi Jake,
Sorry - I haven't been 'here' for a few days.
Yes he does. His 'bio-Dad' lives in B.C.
Just recently my son was in touch with him & seems to be starting a relationship with him. Bio-Dad left when son was 4 1/2 - very traumatic for son.Bio-Dad was very much a perfectionist. I started going out with a great guy when son was about 6. Married 3 years later. Step-Dad & son have had a good relationship. I wished S.D. spent more time with son as he got older though.
My husband has been through a LOT with 'our' son, but has always treated him as his own.
I've heard that that age is the worst for a boy to 'lose' his Dad.
Kath
PS - My son is now at least talking about getting a job!!!!!!! THAT's a big thing.
I'm doing better at being aware on a deeper level that it's his life & I might chose a different route on the roadmap of life it I were him, but everyone choses their own route. Hard to remember for me though!
I think a part of me still feels VERY sorry for that little 4 1/4 year old & some part of that flips forward into the 'now'.
Kath
> Does he have a father?
>
> warm regards. Jake
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