Posted by Estella on May 11, 2006, at 4:04:35
In reply to Re: Dr. Bob's new picture and my Bob rantings » Estella, posted by Deneb on May 10, 2006, at 22:20:49
i think the notion is that infatutions and obsessions tend to be viewed as unhealthy...
whereas feeling attached to people and liking people and sometimes even loving people don't tend to have those unhealthy connotations.
what is the difference between them?
i guess it is a bit about moderation.
don't get me wrong... enjoy the feeling...
maybe it is about... reality checking.
which you do
you doyou talk about how you don't know him as a person and about how you don't know that you would feel the same way if you did get to know him as a person and so on and so forth... and about how is is about the feeling / ideal really...
and i guess those are pretty insightful comments into the situation. and:
> LOL, there's an in-between? Like I just like Dr. Bob?
sure. but maybe you like him a whole heap.
but love... well... maybe depends on what you mean by love...and so i think sure enjoy the feeling...
but not at the expense of the reality testing.
because it is when the reality testing goes that the situation is more likely to end badly.(of course i could be talking complete sh*t)
about rocks...
easier to be a rock on the boards (where you can think before posting)
hard enough hard enough
i guess something i think about a little...
is how it can be fairly anxiety provoking to feel like one is under a lot of scruitiny...
to feel like people are staring and stuff like that...
scrutinising ones every move...
i think everyone feels uncomfortable in that situation.and really... well... i'm sure the meeting will be a bit of reality testing in itself.
i am just talking. i don't know.
etc etc.
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