Posted by Deneb on May 10, 2006, at 16:22:34
In reply to Re: Dr. Bob's new picture and my Bob rantings » Deneb, posted by Estella on May 10, 2006, at 6:04:44
> > I'm going to ask Dr. Bob if I can give him a hug. I'm going to show Dr. Bob the Bob scarf. I might ask Dr. Bob to hold a doll of mine. I don't play with it anymore, but it's still very special to me.
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> you are going to or...
> you are feeling happy thinking about that stuff.Depending on how it feels, I think I'm going to. I'm pretty sure I'm going to show Dr. Bob the scarf. I may or may not ask to hug him. The doll thing, I might not do, 'cause it's a little weird, even for me. It might make Bob feel uncomfortable, knowing that I think he's magical or something.
> and appreciating that some fantasies... are much better as fantasies than as realities. and sometimes if people encourage our fantasies too much... then we are only going to be more upset later when the reality doesn't match up to our fantasy
I don't know about that...I don't think I have any expectations. I'm more worried about regretting not asking. I'm pretty sure I will be okay no matter how Dr. Bob reacts.
> did you read the link i posted on admin?
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> the minsky book?No, sorry, I'll go take a look.
> he starts off talking about love...
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> and he distinguishes two different kinds of love.
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> infatuation
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> and something else...
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> and he talks about the difference between them.
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> IMHO
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> the second kind is something to nurture
> whereas the first kind is likely to...
> end badly.I don't know if that applies to me. I don't see how it could end badly.
> fostering infatuation probably isn't so useful with respect to one learning skills that are more likely to encourage healthy loving relationships irl...
I'd rather have infatuation than nothing at all...
I know you're just worried about me and don't want to see people get hurt, but I think we will just have to agree to disagree for the time being. I don't think any harm will come out it.
Deneb*
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