Posted by Estella on May 10, 2006, at 6:04:44
In reply to Dr. Bob's new picture and my Bob rantings, posted by Deneb on May 9, 2006, at 14:54:23
> I'm going to ask Dr. Bob if I can give him a hug. I'm going to show Dr. Bob the Bob scarf. I might ask Dr. Bob to hold a doll of mine. I don't play with it anymore, but it's still very special to me.
you are going to or...
you are feeling happy thinking about that stuff.
?
because...
there can be a difference.and it can be a difference between enjoying fantasies...
and distinguishing between fantasies and realities...
and appreciating that some fantasies... are much better as fantasies than as realities. and sometimes if people encourage our fantasies too much... then we are only going to be more upset later when the reality doesn't match up to our fantasy (which is inevitable especially when in fantasy someone can meet our needs on demand 24/7 and has no needs desires of our own)
did you read the link i posted on admin?the minsky book?
the first chapter of his book is available online (in rough draft)
it is a book on emotions. and on the prospects for programming emotions into computers. sometimes contemplating that.... can help us get our ideas on the nature of emotions clearer. would a computer that could feel emotions need some kind of nervous system / body? (for example)
he starts off talking about love...
and he distinguishes two different kinds of love.
infatuation
and something else...
and he talks about the difference between them.
IMHO
the second kind is something to nurture
whereas the first kind is likely to...
end badly.you talk sometimes about how what you really love is the idea... the idea of love maybe.
everyone needs love... and sometimes i think people have trouble with giving and receiving love. i think that sometimes love we have can help teach us so that we might be able to have a healthy loving relationship with someone one day.fostering infatuation probably isn't so useful with respect to one learning skills that are more likely to encourage healthy loving relationships irl...
the second kind... a kind of respect... imo that is more likely
but i don't know...
i don't know...
poster:Estella
thread:641820
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