Posted by TexasChic on April 5, 2006, at 19:55:30
In reply to Re: Upsetting day » TexasChic, posted by ClearSkies on April 5, 2006, at 5:51:25
I felt much better today, more positive and more annoyed rather than hurt. I really couldn't believe how good I felt. In the past, a situation like this would take me weeks to get over. So I guess I'm at least progressing.
I think I forgot to tell yall yesterday about how they also changed my 'angel' icon into a 'devil'. How immature is that? That's not even offensive! Oooh, I'm a devil. ALSO, they each have signs on their desks that say GO AWAY! LEAVE ME ALONE! I'm assuming this is directed towards me, not that I've bothered to talk to them in the last couple of weeks or anything.
Anyway, back to today. Of course I checked their folders to see if they had added anything else. All I noticed was BitchyGirl had taken the curse word out of her message (but I have proof so that's okay). She is the main instigator, not cold-shoulder-girl. Although cold-shoulder-girl is going along with it, she is at least smart enough not to address anything directly to me, especially in writing. So I'm thinking I will concentrate my efforts on BitchyGirl. She's the one that gave me all the trouble over the summer too.
So anyway, a while later I went to my folder to get something and she had written in it, "I can see you!!" and "Sucks when it happens to you doesn't it". Of course I didn't care at all about anyone looking in my folder, its just boring work related stuff. But this was just the last straw for me. I printed these new ones out and went up to HR (my regular supervisor is out for the week).
The main HR people I know were at lunch, but a man I didn't know asked me if I needed anything. Turns out he was the head of HR. I showed him my printouts and told him some of the history. I told him I was kind of afraid of making things worse by confronting them and I really just wanted something documented just incase they try something worse.
He documented everything and told me I should tell my supervisor when he gets back, just so he'll be aware of the situation. He also kept suggesting a meeting between me, BitchyGirl and my supervisor. I tried to explain to him the crazy bitch would not take being reprimanded lying down. She WOULD retaliate against me, I'm positvie of that. He adviced me that if I ignore them they'll probably lose interest and stop. I told him that's what I was doing when I recieved the new messages in my folder today. But overall he was helpful and made me feel better. And now my complaint is documented.
When I got back to my desk I spoke to my co-worker who sits in front of me about it all. He said its not the first time they've done this, and it won't be the last. They had recently focused in on a friend of his. He said they would go to her desk while she was away and hide things or knock things over. I'm thinking I may see if she will share her experience as a way of backing me up.
One other thing that bother's me, BitchyGirl seems to know too much about what I'm doing to just be glimpsing over my shoulder. I know its possible to network with other computer's and see exactly what people are doing on their desktop. Its kind of a monitoring thing for supervisors and shouldn't be available to us. But I'm just wondering if they may have gotten into it somehow. I'm going to check that out with my supervisor.
Thanks again for all the helpful advice and encouragement. Overall, it wasn't a bad day. Just being able to let the hurt feelings go was a huge step for me. I believe just talking to a couple of babblers last night gave me the inner strength I needed to feel confident about not deserving this sort of treatment. I really appreciate you all.
-T
poster:TexasChic
thread:628845
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20060331/msgs/629422.html