Posted by ClearSkies on April 5, 2006, at 5:51:25
In reply to Upsetting day, posted by TexasChic on April 4, 2006, at 18:31:02
Sorry you had such an upsetting day, TexasChic.
Something similar happened to me once with an email message I saw inadvertently. I won't go into the details, it's still a sore spot for me to think about much, but; I did go to a supervicor to talk about it.
Now, when I did this, the email message had been deleted, no surprise. And I hadn't thought to make a copy or print it out because I was way too upset to do anything but cry when I read it.
I sat down with the person who had sent the email and told them I had seen it. He denied that there had been such a message or that he would have sent it in the first place. I told him that I didn't believe him and that I couldn't trust him.
And we went back to work with nothing further said, nothing done. He was visibly uncomfortable around me after that, and I was cordial but made no attempt to repair our friendship. Being hurt like this made me so wary of workplace friendships that I distanced myself from them after that.
I think I kept myself safer for having done it. I was somewhat satisfied in talking to him about it, seeing the recognition in his eyes (kind of like that deer caught in the headlights), and hearing the words that said that he knew nothing about it.
It made me realise that he had to live in his own skin while being deceitful. For me that was enough.Stay strong, TexasChic. No matter what you decide to do. I'm sorry that you had this happen; but I believe it's a reflection upon these other people, and not about you at all.
ClearSkies
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