Posted by TofuEmmy on November 15, 2004, at 18:24:47
In reply to update: home from work, lasted an hour TRIGGER, posted by octopusprime on November 15, 2004, at 14:20:56
Oh OP - I'm so sorry for all you've been through. I think you know my history, so I have some idea of your sensitivity to the topic.
Bare minimum, the guy sounds he has a substance abuse problem. Sitting around drinking with a gun by ones side is a pretty serious sign of a problem. If it's true, that behavior needs to end ASAP. Since he also sounds impulsive, that's a triple threat for a suicide (alcohol, weapon, impulsivity).
I hope the office manager contacts him and insists he get counseling. Personally, I would not let him return to work without that agreement. It would be great if someone let his wife or bestfriend know too.
The man has acted like a complete jerk, but I think he has also done it in a very "telling" fashion. And, imho, it's always best to over-react in these situations, than under-react. Perhaps his nastiness to you, OP, regarding mental health problem is veiled anger at himself and his OWN biiiig issues. He just can't admit he has them yet.
Again, I'm SO sorry this has happened. People seem to find our soft spot sometimes and kick there the hardest. Big hugs.
emmy
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